Almost all of us regret of not being able to achieve what we had thought of or being sad by thinking that I could have done more in life, not only in terms of acquiring possessions but also living the life to its fullest potential.
Many people play a card of being victim to escape from accepting the fact that they could not achieve what they wanted to, but playing a card of victim is not a solution and it makes the things worst for life.
So what is it that makes the life worth we thought of or we dreamt of?
It all depends upon if we want to live life with compulsion or with willingness. we just need to ask one simple question to our self.
Do I do thing in life only because I have to do? Or I do because I want to do?
The answer of this one single question can change and fix many things in our life.
Inspiring real life story of Hal Elrad, an author of bestselling book “The Miracle Morning”, gives intriguing insights of what life is capable of.
Hal Elrad was a victim of 2008 economic meltdown in the US; he lost almost everything from his job to home and got in from debt free to huge debt and that triggered hopelessness in him, but he overcame all of that and came out of it.
How could he overcame all these crises?
He insists on defining the dream of life, rather than thinking just about survival, anything is possible to achieve in life.
Learn Something from Everyone
Every person has different life experiences, be it child, old, rich or poor; there is always something you can learn from them. But it is your own responsibility to see what exactly you can learn from them, and that can happen only if you look at the things with open mind and be curious.
“A wise person knows that there is something to be learned from everyone”
It’s not about what happens to you, but how you respond
When Hal Elrod was 20 years old, he met an accident as drunk driver hit his car head on with the impact of 150 miles/hour. The accident was so severe that not only he got many fractures in his body but also his heart had stopped functioning which was reviewed by the paramedic and was rushed to the hospital.
He underwent an emergency surgery and was in comma for 6 days. Doctors said that he would probably never be able to walk again and would have a permanent brain damage as he had no short term memory and could not recollect people around him.
It is not what happens to you, but how you respond.
Not able to walk again was most disturbing thing to hear for him as he was just in his twenties and had dreamt of achieving a lot in his life. He could not imagine life on wheelchair all the time.
Eventually he overcame all of the adversities and started walking again and wrote a bestselling book “The Miracle Morning”.
He later was diagnosed with cancer and also successfully survived it.
How could he do that?
Five Minute Rule
He could not change what was done or what doctors say, but all he could do is change the perspective.
That time he memorized the rule which he learnt during training in his office, a rule called Five minute rule.
A rule which says that its ok to be negative when things go wrong but not more than 5 minutes, for these five minutes you can be in complete pain and accept it to move on. As when something causes emotional pain we don’t make the best decisions and don’t take best actions.
It’s all about experiencing the pain but not to dwell on it, and accept it and then think about correcting it, when things cannot be changed there is no point in dwelling about and draining energy.
Many people causes self-suffering only because they just hang on to their past bad experiences and not able to accept it.
That time he thought of having a responsibility and opportunity to apply five minute rule to the situation he was in. He accepted the situation and became comfortable to face future, and that moment made him free from the suffering and he started behaving normally with nurses and doctors in hospital which surprised them and thought that he was in denial of accepting facts.
But he had already though that if he will be on wheel chair his rest of the life, rather than being miserable he would prefer to be happier person on wheel chair. He also dared to think about the second possibility of walking again, and he really started walking after few months.
This wheel chair can be any adversity in our life; we can also learn to apply this rule in our life.
Miracle Morning – S.A.V.E.R.S.
In his book miracle morning he describes in detail about following six morning rituals for successful and happy life. which he calls as SAVERS (Silence, Affirmations, Visualize, Exercise, Reading, Scribing)
Silence is meditation and prayer, there are thousands of scientific evidences that meditation and prayer has positive impact on your whole day and life.
Silence is a source of Great Strength – Lao Tzu
Affirmations should be result oriented and not only feel good; most people affirm thing just to feel good. Affirmation need to be followed by commitment to achieve it, else they will only make you feel good. We need to affirm what we are committed to every single day.
It’s the repetition of affirmations that leads to belief. and once that belief becomes a deep conviction, things begin to happen – Muhammad Ali
Hal visualized about walking again when he was in hospital, and miraculously his body started healing so fast that even doctors surprised by the recovery.
So we need to visualize end result but at the same time visualize action.
I suggest you to read another article about visualization Law of Attraction which also talks about same thing.
Every day in our life we have a choice of being stressed or blessed.
What we think, We become – Buddha
This seems to be very trivial and nothing to do with success but, it has great impact on our day and eventually life.
If we don’t exercise every day, we would be in a very low mental, emotional, spiritual state of mind. It acts as a daily conditioning for our mind, body and spirit.
Exercise is a reward, not a punishment.
We should choose the readings that will get us where we want to go, rather than reading just entertaining stuff.
As per research by University of California, kids get exposed to more words by reading than TV, or a conversation with friends.
Reading is to the mind, what exercise is to the body. – Richard Steele
Reading increases brain power, similar to going for a jog improves cardiovascular system, reading regularly improves memory function. whatever we want to do or become, gaining more knowledge is the key, and reading is one of the best ways to enhance knowledge.
When we write the things we want to gain, the level of clarity enhances. Research shows that putting down our thoughts on paper makes us more productive and helps us to become more rational thinker and decision maker.
Either write something worth reading or do something worth writing – Benjamin Franklin.
Writing helps us to communicate highly complex ideas more effectively and clearly, It also keeps us organised and makes mind sharp.
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