How Fighting Parents Damage Childrens Ability

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Research suggests children whose parents fight with each other frequently and harshly are more likely to grow into emotionally insecure older children who struggle with depression, anxiety and behavior issues.

If parents managed to work out their problems in a constructive way, children aren’t  terribly bothered by the conflicts.

What children wish?

The wish of basically all children is that their parents do not argue or fight with each other and can, in some way, work out difficulties in a mature fashion without resorting to hurtful comments and behaviors. This wish has a strong basis in reality as ongoing, unresolved, chronic conflict between parents, whether living together or separated, has an extremely negative impact on the current and future mental health of their children.

Chronic Parental Conflict

It is common and normal for two parents to have different ideas, opinions, values, and priorities. Part of being successful in a relationship with another person is being able to use appropriate communication skills so that ideas and opinions can be expressed and received with respect and differences of opinion can be worked out using healthy conflict resolution strategies.

If parents do not communicate respectfully with each other and do not have a good strategy for resolving conflicts, the result is chronic, unresolved conflict between the parents. There is an ongoing hostile emotional tone between the parents that continues to erupt over time and in the same patterns. Conflict never seems to get resolved. The same patterns of angry confrontations are repeated over and over again with only temporary or often no resolution or changes taking place between the parents.

This harmful conflict can range on a continuum from yelling, criticizing, blaming, put-downs, mocking, sarcasm and ignoring at one end of the spectrum, through intimidation and threats of harm, to actual physical violence such as throwing or destroying things, or grabbing, shoving, slapping, hitting, kicking, or any other form of physical assault at the other end of the spectrum.

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Ways to deal with Stress

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What is Stress?

Stress is the body’s method of reacting to a challenge. Definitions of stress differ; however there five types of stress labeled  as follows.

Acute time limited stress: – Involve a short term challenge.
Brief naturalistic stress: – Involve an event that is normal but nevertheless challenging.
Stressful event sequence: – Stress that occur and continue to yield stress into the immediate future.
Chronic stress: – Stress that involve exposure to a long-term stress.
Distant stress: – Stress that isn’t immediate.

Impact of Stress

Nervous System which acts largely unconsciously and regulates bodily functions such as the heart rate, digestion, urination responds to stress. Parts of nervous system are regulated by a wide variety of brain regions.

Stress can alter memory functions, reward, immune function, metabolism and susceptibility to diseases.

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Autism Mythbuster

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Autism

Autism is a neurodevelopmental disorder that first appears during infancy or childhood, and generally follows a steady course without remission (temporary end to the medical signs and symptoms of an incurable disease) . People with autism may be severely impaired in some respects but normal, or even superior, in others.

Autism is characterized by impaired social interaction, verbal and non-verbal communication, and restricted and repetitive behavior. Parents usually notice signs in the first two years of their child’s life.These signs often develop gradually, though some children with autism reach their developmental milestones at a normal pace but later start showing the behavior. The diagnostic criteria require that symptoms become apparent in early childhood, typically before age three.


Autism is due to a combination of genetic and environmental factors.

Unusual social development becomes apparent early in childhood. Autistic infants show less attention to social stimuli, smile and look at others less often, and respond less to their own name. Autistic toddlers differ more strikingly from social norms; for example, they have less eye contact and turn-taking, and do not have the ability to use simple movements to express themselves, such as pointing at things.Three- to five-year-old children with autism are less likely to exhibit social understanding, approach others spontaneously, imitate and respond to emotions, communicate non-verbally, and take turns with others.

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Prefer Motivation over Nagging

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Moms and Dads would never agree that they actually Nag, no one wants to be a naggy but it just happen, and if you are a parent of Slow Learner, ADHD, ADD, Autistic kids then its a big challenge to get the things done from kids. these kids would keep repeating or keep forgetting things, you would think that you are just reminding them to do the tasks. sometimes, we get frustrated with them because we see the negative in us comes out because of them. Is that their fault? Of course not. Is it ours? Not always because we don’t realize what we’re doing.

What is Nagging?

“It is the interaction in which one person repeatedly makes a request, the other person repeatedly ignores it and both become increasingly annoyed.” Nagging is a form of persistent intention or behavior that is more repetitive, it is often unproductive. Psychologically, nagging can act to reinforce behavior. Continue reading “Prefer Motivation over Nagging”

A Key To Happiness (For Parents and Children)

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What is happiness?

Happiness is a mental or emotional state of well-being. whereas philosophers and religious thinkers often define happiness in terms of living a good life, or flourishing, rather than simply as an emotion.

Happiness meant “Prosperity, Thriving, Wellbeing” in the 18th century.

Nowadays, happiness is a fuzzy concept and can mean many different things to many people. Some philosophers focus on the difference between the
Hedonistic tradition (sensually self-indulgent, drugs, and parties) tradition of seeking pleasant and avoiding unpleasant experiences.
Eudaimonic tradition (self-realization) defines well-being in terms of the degree to which a person is fully functioning.

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How to Improve Social Development / Social Awareness in Children

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What is Social Awareness or Social Development and how it is important?

Social awareness is the ability to understand and respond to the needs of others around us. This is the one of the domains of emotional intelligence (Self-Awareness, Self-Regulation, Social Awareness, Relationship Management)

Let us consider few examples.

1. You want to go for a outing and someone suggests some better option as per your needs.
2. Some one who visits your home remembers your child’s name and calls him by name.

If we consider these examples the one thing common in them is that they are good at social awareness. Having social awareness makes people around us feel happy. It is important that children are made socially aware during their development.

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10 Games and Toys for Sensory Development / Sensory Integration of kids

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What is Sensory Development / Sensory Integration?

Sensory development is the gradual process by which a child gains and use the large muscles of the legs, trunk, and arms, and the smaller muscles of the hands. A baby begins to experience new awareness through sight, touch, taste, smell, and hearing.

Sensory play includes any activity that stimulates your young child’s senses: touch, smell, taste, sight and hearing. Sensory activities facilitate exploration and naturally encourage children to use scientific processes while they play, create, investigate and explore. Spending time stimulating their senses helps children develop cognitively, linguistically, socially and emotionally, physically and creatively. Children learn best and retain the most information when they engage their senses. Many of our favorite memories are associated with one or more of our senses. Find activities/games and crafts/toys that encourage sensory play of kids.

Sensory Development / Sensory Integration activities helps to develop following skills.

Cognitive
The most obvious cognitive skills sharpened by sensory play are problem solving and decision making;

Linguistic
Children can’t define parts of language until they’ve experienced the true meaning of the word. The attempt to convey something without the proper words to do so can be frustrating for children. Sensory play encourages children to use descriptive and expressive language, and to find meaning behind essentially meaningless words.

Social and Emotional
Certain sensory play options allow children to be in complete control of their actions and experiences, which boosts their confidence in decision making and inspires their eagerness to learn and experiment.

Physical
Fine motor skills are often defined as the coordination of small muscle movements (usually hand-eye coordination) that enable us to perform a variety of important tasks. For children, these tasks might include tying shoes, zipping zippers and even turning the pages of a book.

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Inspiring Story of The Matrix fame, School Dropout, Hollywood actor Keanu Charles Reeves overcoming Dyslexia and family problems

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Who is Keanu Charles Reeves? (School Dropout with Dyslexia)

 

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In 1999, Keanu Reeves became most famous for his role in the  groundbreaking science fiction film, The Matrix. It earned an impressive $463.5 million at the box office and was nominated for and won four Academy Awards. The Matrix is a happy story in a lot of ways, but the life of its star wasn’t always.

Now 50 years old, Keanu’s life has been full of more tragedy than you would expect from a movie star. Despite each setback, he’s kept pushing forward. It’s helped develop himself into the awesome person that he is on and off the screen.

Keanu Charles Reeves, whose first name means “cool breeze over the mountains” in Hawaiian, was born September 2, 1964 in Beirut, Lebanon. He is the son of Patricia Taylor, a showgirl and costume designer, and Samuel Nowlin Reeves, a geologist. Keanu’s father was born in Hawaii, of British, Portuguese, Native Hawaiian, and Chinese ancestry, and Keanu’s mother is originally from England. After his parents’ marriage dissolved, Keanu moved with his mother and younger sister, Kim Reeves, to New York City, then Toronto.

In high school, Reeves was lukewarm toward academics but took a keen interest in ice hockey and drama. He eventually dropped out of school to pursue an acting career.

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Oppositional Defiant Disorder (ODD) in Children

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What is Oppositional defiant disorder (ODD)?

ODD is generally described as a pattern of angry/irritable mood, argumentative/defiant behavior, or unkindness. If these behaviors lasts for at least 6 months and exhibited during interaction with at least one individual who is not a sibling, then your child might have ODD. You have to check for the causes and treatment for the behavior.

What is Angry/Irritable Mood?
Often loses temper.
Often touchy or easily annoyed.
Often angry and resentful.

What is Argumentative/Defiant Behavior?
Often argues with adolescents with adults.
Often actively defies or refuses to comply with requests.
Often deliberately annoys others.
Often blames others for his or her mistakes or misbehavior.

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Good Parenting – Build strong children than repair broken

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What is parenting?

Parenting is the process of promoting and supporting the physical, emotional, social, financial, and intellectual development of a child from infancy to adulthood.  Parenting takes a lot of skill and patience and is constant work and growth. Social skills and behavioral functioning a child acquires during the early years are fundamentally dependent on the quality of their interactions with their parents. Parenting skills are often assumed to be self-evident or naturally present in parents. But those who come from a negative/vulnerable environment might tend to pass on what they suffered onto their families. A parenting style is the overall emotional climate in the home, some known parenting styles are as follows.

Authoritative parenting
This is sometimes referred to as right style of parenting, it combines a medium level demands on the child and a medium level responsiveness from the parents. Authoritative parents rely on positive reinforcement and infrequent use of punishment, there is a give-and-take atmosphere involved in parent-child communication and both control and support are balanced.

Authoritarian parenting styles
Authoritarian parents are very rigid and strict. They place high demands on the child, but are not responsive to the child. Continue reading “Good Parenting – Build strong children than repair broken”